Stuck in the Muck: How to Bust Through Childhood Baggage and Finally Thrive

Hey warriors! Let’s talk about the sneaky little gremlin that lurks in all our shadows: resistance. You know the feeling – that sinking sensation when you set a goal, muster the courage to take that first step, then WHAM! A wave of doubt, fear, or pure laziness slams you back into the comfort (or should I say discomfort?) zone.

Why Change Feels Like a Battle

Change is hard, even when we know it’s for the better. This internal battle is called resistance. Our brains are wired for stability, the known. Change disrupts that, triggering a subconscious fight-or-flight response, even if the change is positive! This internal tug-of-war can feel incredibly frustrating and demotivating.

The Culprit Behind the Curtain

Why does this resistance happen? Often, it’s because of a hidden culprit: unconscious beliefs shaped by our childhood experiences. Maybe you didn’t receive the validation you craved, or perhaps felt like “good things don’t happen to me.” These messages, though outdated, can become deeply ingrained, acting like a self-fulfilling prophecy, whispering “you’re not good enough” whenever you try to rise above.

But here’s the good news: We’re not powerless! Here’s how to recognize resistance and finally push past it:

1. Spot the Signs:

Resistance can be a sneaky devil. It might show up as procrastination, negativity, or that sudden urge to binge-watch cat videos instead of hitting the gym. Pay attention to your internal dialogue. Are you making excuses? Feeling overwhelmed for no reason? These are red flags. Get out your journal when you feel stuck and free write. When in your life have you tried to change and failed, what happened?  What were your feelings and belief’s? 

2. Dig Up the Root:

When you feel resistance, take a deep breath and ask yourself, “What am I really afraid of?” Often, the answer lies in a past belief. Did someone tell you “artists are starving?” Maybe your fear of success stems from a subconscious fear of abandonment.  Did you fail at something when you were younger and now you fear you will keep failing if you try again? Here is the good news 100 times failed is all worth it when the 101st time you succeed. Keep failing..

3. Rewrite the Script:

You are not your childhood experiences! Once you identify the limiting belief, challenge it! “I deserve success” or “Love is abundant in my life” are powerful affirmations to counter the negativity.

4. Baby Steps, Big Leaps:

Change takes time. Don’t try to overhaul your life overnight. Set small, achievable goals and celebrate each victory, no matter how tiny. Building momentum is key to breaking the resistance cycle.

5. Find Your Tribe:

Surround yourself with supportive people who believe in you! A coach, therapist, or even a friend who cheers you on can make a world of difference.

Remember, my friend, you are capable of amazing things. Don’t let the ghosts of your past hold you back. With awareness, self-compassion, and a little effort, you can rewrite your story and finally create the life you deserve. Now go out there and conquer your goals!

P.S. Feeling stuck? Let’s chat! I offer coaching sessions to help you break free from limiting beliefs and create a life that lights you up. Because you, my friend, are worthy of all the good things.